I once heard someone say "Love can be Arranged" but to "Arrange Love" seems like a herculean task in this day and age. I don't think they make men like our fathers anymore. Finding the right "Boy" or "Groom" is in itself is a tumultuous task. After meeting and speaking with a number of men the only conclusion i could draw was that- either there is a problem with them or with me; which one is true - i don't know ?
I have still not been able to figure out how to understand men. They either want to marry you after 2 hours of meeting or they still haven't been able to decide even after months of meeting. Listing down a few "incidents / idiots" (you can choose what you want the "I" to stand for😆).
I 1. This is the first guy i ever met thinking getting married is a cake walk; i am so lovable and cute; i will meet him, we will talk , he will like me and that's it . Simple.
It was so simple that its been 5 years and my status is still "single".😜 Every Valentine's Day i think, this is the last one as single, next year i am sure i will be hooked 😆. Here i am in 2017 again "arranging love".
Back to Feb 2012, met a very handsome looking boy only to be told that he was here to meet me only because his mother had pushed him to. Dude you are 35; how can you be pushed for something? So, in the event of being polite we "friendzoned" each other ; as that is the safest thing to do and honestly i thought that is what is done since it was my first time in such a situation. I thought if you can't get him to be your husband you make him your friend. But soon i realized that i was making more "friends"😆 and the "husband" was nowhere to be found😆.
I 2. I1 took me 2 years to get over with; and then again in 2014 i was in the "marriage market". Met another boy through the Dotcoms. He was one helluva cookie (read jerk). Met me once; second meeting he wanted to check out our "travel compatibility" - a trip to Goa was what he wanted. I told him sure lets test our compatibility but what about our parents compatibility because as they say in India -"Shaadi do logon ka nahin do parivaron ka bandhan hai" so why not take them to Goa as well. He chickened out 😆.
I 3. I 3 was a lawyer and a poet - a very deadly combination. Met him for coffee; by the time i reached home he wanted to marry me 😃 and i had still not decided as to what i thought of him. Every day i had long poems as text messages only to wish me "Good Morning". I couldn't bear them; hence i decided against him.
I 4. Met another guy, and when i came back my friends asked me how was he ? The only answer that came to my mind was - "theek tha but crisp nahi tha😆". Oh boy we had a hearty laugh 😆. Sometimes you meet some people and there is nothing wrong with them but somewhere the click is missing. (In simple words - Ghanti nahi baji.)
So, without being judgmental i went along and started meeting the "not so crispy soggy guy" again and again. We met a few times and again the click was missing, so i decided not to take it forward; no point wasting each other's time and time was something he never had.
Either the men these days are too fast or maybe i am too slow. They start addressing you as "baby" the moment they meet you.😲. Some of them are quite well educated but not broadminded. One of them , a graduate from a premiere B-school,mentioned in one of our conversations that girls who have tattoos are very fast.😮. Don't know why they waste so much money to get good education when the basic attitude, respect and chivalry is missing.
The other day one of my aunts asked me - "tu kab ladka dhoondegi". I told her, Aunty - ab main nahin dhoondongi; woh mujhe dhondega. Its his turn to find me now. I've had enough. She was happy to see me have that attitude 😄 .
I am 32 going on 33; no regrets, i have a very understanding and supportive family and a lot of good friends who are like oxygen to me.
All i want to say to 'the happy singles like me' - "A late marriage is better than a bad one". Good luck.
